In my last blog I introduced you to Yorker turned Baltimore title holding drag performer, Veronica Lush, also known as V-Ron. Miss Charm City Triple Threat 2015 gave me a great primer into just SOME of what it takes to be an award winning queen, but it turns out she has learned a lot along the way about how to be an amazing person and mentor as well as a performer. I thought those lessons were just as important to pass on, especially because there are still young people now going through the trials Veronica did.
When we talk about Baltimore, in my personal experience, I’ve had mostly positive times. I don’t mean to attack anyone, but York was not very friendly to me when I had come out. There was a lot of bullying, to say the least. I’ve never had that happen to me here in Baltimore though. The mayor is a great supporter of the LGBT community. There is also a huge yearly pride event which takes place an entire weekend.
When I was in high school I wish I would have had someone to help stop and prevent the bullying. I was not the only gay person, and definitely not the only one bullied…It was a huge problem and had a lot to do with my dislike of going to school. When I performed at Equality Fest in august, I met some kids that had similar experiences going on in their school. I’m glad that I got to be there to show them that it happens, and it does get better. They told me they reclaimed the word “Freak” as their own, which is what I also consider myself and my drag. Being normal is boring, #Freakzilla. It would have been nice to have someone like that, or just to have someone tell me its okay not to be ‘normal’ while I was growing up.
I wish I could say this is the first time I have heard an LGBT or minority or differently-able beautiful young person mention that, even in today’s supposedly more liberal climate, bullying and discrimination are still very real things. I wondered that seeing a more accepting alternative community was part of the drag world’s appeal. Don’t we all need a place where we can feel safe just being ourselves and having fun with that?
I didn’t really expect to find this kind of community. I’ve been accustomed to being kind of an outsider but I was fortunate enough to find the right people as soon as I started here. It’s become a form of a second family. I am lucky enough to have my entire [nuclear] family support my drag, and now they even welcome a lot of my drag family as their own too. It’s not what I expected at all, but I’m very lucky to have found it. It’s been one of the biggest driving forces to keep me going and trying to go bigger and more bad ass every time.
But what initially drew me in – being able to have an outlet for creativity. I can have a transformation. A complete mind, and body change. I can be whatever I want to be, and be as goofy as I want.
Well sweetie – be however you want to be…and have a great time with it. You’ve earned it!